Talking to a girl is not part of your nightmare. It’s not even as scary as you might think. Patience and confidence are things that you need. After that, you should follow the advice below on how to talk to a girl.
Understanding Your Problem
At first, you should know what makes you afraid or uncomfortable to talk to a girl. Is it because you don’t have any confidence? Is it because you’re afraid a girl will consider you boring? Or you just don’t know the problem, but every girl that you’ve talked with just left you in the middle of a conversation?
Lack of confidence often becomes a common problem. If this happens to you, you cannot get your confidence directly if you just do nothing and mourn your weakness. Practice makes perfect. You should practice a small conversation with your friends, especially girlfriends if it’s possible. Try to understand their point of view and how to make them interested in your topic. If you’ve failed to impress your girlfriends, then do it again. Moreover, confidence is also can be improved by appearance. You don’t need to look too formal or unrealistic in front of a girl; paying attention to your personal hygiene is already enough. And girl usually doesn’t like a man who smells bad.
Being afraid will not help. Before talking to a girl, you should change your mindset that “if you’re rejected, then it’s ok because you have another chance”. The girl may know that you’re afraid of her; sometimes your body language and tone of voice will let her know. If you’re relaxed, then you’ll behave normally to her.
If you’re confused if a girl leaves you in the middle of a conversation, especially if it has happened more than once, then you should pay attention on how you approach the girl and how you keep the conversation going. Perhaps your topic is too heavy or you can’t make her interested in you.
Maintaining Eye Contact
Your eye contact shows how confident you are. Before talking to a girl, you should look at her and maintain it properly. But make sure you don’t overdo it, such as stare at her for several minutes without any movement. If she looks back at you, you should smile at her and you can approach her to start a conversation. When the conversation already goes, you still need to maintain your eye contact, but please don’t look at her body. Try to look at her eyes, especially when she’s stating her opinion. It means you’re interested in her.
When you’re approaching her, make sure you act confidently. Don’t look down when you’re walking; instead, you need to keep staring at her. If you can’t handle your nervousness, you can bring a glass of drink or some snacks. Some girls don’t like to be touched more than a handshaking when they meet a stranger for the first time, so don’t do it. Even though you’re nervous, make sure that you’re not mumbling when stating your opinion. In the end, if the conversation is almost over, don’t be afraid to ask her contacts, such as social media accounts.
What to Talk About
The topic of conversation is also a part of how to talk to a girl. You can ask about general topics, such as her favorite TV series, movies, music genres, books, local events, or even weather. If you have jokes about these topics, then state it to her. If she doesn’t laugh, you still need to stay calm and move on to another topic. You should keep the conversation goes.
Find something that can attract her and don’t be afraid to compliment her dress or smile. Girl likes to be complimented, but not too often. Don’t bring up your personal story because it’s not the right time to talk about it. Moreover, don’t be a liar just because you want to impress her. And you also shouldn’t bring up heavy topics, such as politics, beliefs, or LGBT. Sometimes being confident is a must, but not with over-confidence. It’s not the right time for you to compliment yourself in front of her.
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